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I don’t care what my children wear and neither should you.

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I don’t care what my children wear and neither should you.

 I am not sure why this is even a topic. Why as a society do we put so much stock into our outward appearance? Especially in children. It is crazy to look at a 2-year-old and immediately question what he is wearing or wonder why a 7-year-old was allowed to leave the house in 4 different animal prints.

My 7-year-old daughter likes to dress herself and it doesn’t always match. Guess what, I do not care. She likes to mix patterns, prints, and textures. She likes what she is wearing, you do not have to.

I want my children to know what they wear is not their value, that is not what society is teaching them. The message sent is you have to look a certain way or we won’t like you and you won’t be good enough. Priorities are all mixed up.

Their clothes, their faces, and their hair is clean but their shoes may not match.

Their personalities are shining, their laughter is contagious but they are wearing 3 different shades of blue.

Their faces are bright, their smile is ear to ear but they are wearing a superhero Halloween costume in the supermarket in June.

People sometimes don’t make it past their initial judgment to notice them, not what they are wearing but them as a person.

I get it, we all care how we look. Like a lot. I myself have a lot of issues with just leaving the house without makeup! I like to look nice and put together and you better believe if I am not, I feel inferior to all those around me. I do not want my children to be like me, I want them to be confident in whatever they are wearing. I want their self-worth to come from them and not their appearance.

I know some of you out there are like “woah, woah first impressions matter” and yes , you are right they absolutely do. When we are putting pressure on two year olds about their appearance it is no wonder why we can’t handle natural wrinkle lines as we age. Our first impression is never enough when it comes to appearance we are always being compared to everyone else.

When my child is grown and heading off to his first job interview I am not concerned if he is going to wear one crock and one rain boot. I am concerned if he will feel confident enough to walk into the room “owning” whatever suit he was able to afford. I don’t want him to base his performance on the clothes he was wearing because honestly, it will never be enough for this world we live in.

I am not saying to teach your kids to dress like slobs. They each have matching shoes, clothes outfits but my #1 priority is not to make them fit in it with their appearance, my #1 priority is my children’s self-confidence. Telling them constantly their choices are wrong is not getting me closer to my goal.

If I tell my daughter every single time she dresses herself that her outfit doesn’t match or the scarf she put in her hair really doesn’t go with her shoes what is that teaching her? I have seen her vibrant excited smile turn around after she picked her favorite outfit and I told her it didn’t match. To whose standards didn’t it match? Clearly mine because she loved it and I took that away from her.

I can’t change the way others feel about my children but I can help my children know their worth so they don’t feel inferior if they do not meet up with society’s standards.

I obviously know not everyone will agree with me on this but next time you see me and the kids out and we don’t look up to par, just know we are ok with it.

Parenting Through the Generations Gen X

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Parenting Through the Generations Gen X

I have always been intrigued by each generation, the strengths, differences, and similarities are so vast. I have a special interest in generational parenting, it amazes me to see the changes in parenting but also to take notice of the things that have not changed over time.

I thought and thought about how I would approach this subject and realized I couldn’t do it alone so I reached out to some blogging friends of mine and together we have created a month long Generational Parenting Series. Each week this month you will hear from a mother telling us her perspective on parenting. Look for a wrap up of my point of view on the last week.  I look forward to sharing this journey of motherhood with each of you.

Thoughts from a Gen X Mom JENNIFER GRIFFIN

 

When I planned our trip to Panama to visit my mother-in-law for six weeks, I never imagined I would be experiencing the extra bonus of reliving the 1970’s with my children—a bit like visiting an intergenerational theme park.

Nostalgic moments filled our rented house as I talked on the telephone attached to the wall, twisting the long coiled cord around my index finger. As I taught my children the art of adjusting the T.V. antenna to get a clearer picture, I half-heartedly hoped the fuzz would not appear during an important scene, but squealed with delight when it did because it was another chance to share a glimpse of my childhood with my kids.

With only four T.V. channels, my kids would look forward to whatever cheesy special was advertised for the next day, even though the shows were in Spanish—a language they did not understand. There were no remotes so we would lazily negotiate who had to get up next to change the channel.

As we watched the 2012 Olympics on this primitive color TV, we failed to realize that Gabriella’s leotard was not the color we thought until we caught a glimpse on the neighbor’s newer analog television.

Without reliable electricity, the kids needed to rely on playing with each other and the neighbors. One thunderstorm-filled afternoon, my daughter and her new neighborhood friend ran back and forth between houses gathering ingredients to make cupcakes. They sat cross-legged on the kitchen floor relishing in the simplicity of watching their cupcakes rise through the oven door.

Even though I welcomed the gift and surprise of living with a touch of the seventies with my kids, many defining Generation X moments were not captured in Panama, such as sitting in my fourth-grade classroom in dismay as I watched the Space Shuttle blow up, receiving the news of President Reagan being shot, getting a microwave and home computer, playing Atari and watching MTV.

How do these experiences compare with Generation Y growing up with massive school shootings, the aftermath of 911, the birth of Facebook and the iPhone and all the fear and confusion, yet global access that these events provide?

No one really knows the answer to that, but we do know that each generation of parents struggle in some areas and thrive in others. For Generation X, parents seem to struggle the most with how to control access to media. This is especially challenging as schools start to integrate technology into the classrooms.

Many of us spend excessive time unsuccessfully trying to control our children’s media consumption while many other parents give up and look the other way, buried in our own media addiction. Some of us search furiously for apps that restrict our children’s media access. I have yet to find something that covers all the bases while allowing a child to complete their homework assignments and be able to maintain their social connections.

Regardless of your view on media, all parents wish for their children to grow into happy, functional, and flourishing adults, which I believe is what parents of every generation have always wanted for their children.

Generation X parents fall down most when it comes to using scheduled playdates.These playdates with the added endless after-school activities put our kids in controlled environments with so many time constraints, leaving them with too little down time and the inability to develop trust in themselves and learn how to solve unexpected problems.

Lenore Skenazy, author of Free Range Kids, reports that violent crime is down from the 1970’s, yet we allow excessive media to fuel our paranoia as we surrender to the litigious nature of our society.

On the flip side, Generation X parents thrive when we invest in our children’s feelings, asking our kids what they feel and teaching them to express themselves.

Although Generation Y is spoiled with instant photos and the expectation of constant entertainment, such as jumpy houses at virtually every event, they are growing up with a sensitivity to the underdog, witnessing many triumphs for them, such as the legalization of gay marriage and the rise of a global community.

To conclude, I want to apologize to the Millenials and Generation Y for whatever part I played in the mess of environmental and political disasters created and reinforced by the Baby Boomer and Generation Xers. I trust that your generation’s team playing skills and underdog advocacy will help resolve these tremendous challenges.

As I wrote this article, I fantasized about a Generations theme park where we immerse ourselves in the paraphernalia of our own generation and fully explore other generations.

Comment below about how you parent differently than your parent’s generation and what you would like to see in such a theme park.

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JENNIFER GRIFFIN is the founder of the Spiritual Gift Institute and has over twenty years experience guiding children and adults on their relationship journeys. After ten years in the throes of hyperemesis gravidarum, she is slowly emerging and can’t stop writing about her experiences bringing her four magical children to Earth. When she is not writing, she enjoys urban farming, life schooling her four children, DIY healing challenges, forest bathing and reading young adult fiction and old National Geographic magazines. She is the author of Understanding Your Child As A Spiritual Gift and an upcoming memoir and resource guide, Understanding Morning Sickness As A Gift. Visit her on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JenniferGriffinBooks or connect on Twitter: http://twitter.com/spiritualgiftxo

 

how you are being a bad mother

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how you are being a bad mother

Have you ever stopped to think about how you parent your children? I am sure you have thought about all the ways you are thriving at motherhood and also the areas where you are failing. I am so sorry to tell you this but you are a bad mother! Woah, that is pretty harsh isn’t it? I would be sorry but it is the absolute truth and your children will let you know at the drop of a hat just how awful you really are.

WAYS YOU ARE BEING A BAD MOTHER

To make it easier for you and to help you avoid all the ways you are parenting wrong I will lay a few things out for you.

NOT BEING A MIND READER

  • Giving your child the wrong color or character cup. Not sure how you didn’t know that when he said he wanted “Mickey Mouse” he really meant “Paw Patrol” even if it wasn’t verbally spoken. It really is a shame your mind reading skills are not sharper.
  • Give them pants without pockets. Even though they didn’t request these pockets you should have known pants without them are unacceptable. Where will they put their important items like their paper clips, rocks, pieces of precious lint, toys that are too large to fit into their tiny pockets. If we don’t provide them with this small necessity for the day can we even say we are doing anything right?
  • Nourish them. Give them endless food choices only to find out they started hating string cheese 5 minutes ago and the fact you haven’t cleared it from the fridge by now is a complete insult.
  • You bring them the wrong shoes. You know, the ones they don’t think match their outfit? So they go pick out a better pair that isn’t even a pair. It is two right shoes and one is a boot and one is sandle.

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DEMANDING GOOD HYGIENE

  • Ask them to bathe. This one will sure set them off. They have become attached to the layers of dirt, yogurt, milk, and sauce that they smeared all over themselves throughout the day. Washing them would be like taking away their precious memories from their adventures.
  • Want to really claim the bad mother title? Ask them to get out of the bath they didn’t even want to take in the first place. Just ruin a perfectly good splash time, wade through the 3 inches of standing water that is now on the floor and demand they stop spitting water at you and get out!
  • Change a dirty poop diaper. Children just don’t understand why we don’t love them for who they are in all their stinky glory. Why can’t we just learn to love them without trying to change them? (Ha, see what I did there?)

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STOP THEM FROM RUINING YOUR HOUSE

  • You can rack up endless points on the bad mother scale by simply saying no. Sit back and watch the meltdown of a lifetime happen when you tell them “No, they can not create a small pond out of a gallon of milk in the floor.”
  • Prevent them from writing on walls, pooping in the closet, and smearing toothpaste all over the bathroom. Informing them this is not the murals you have always dreamed of is a sure way to induce tears.
  • Let them know that cutting their clothes with scissors, climbing a dresser, and hitting each other in the face with sticks is harmful. Caring about their personal safety and well-being is a sure way to uphold bad mothering.

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It is time we as mothers get it together. These simple misunderstandings are tearing our children apart. You may have thought you were a good mother, now you know that if in fact, you are doing any or all of these things in your daily routine that you are wrong. Bad mothering is an epidemic and we must stop to raise happy children.

What are some ways that make you a “bad mother”?

The things I have to say

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The things I have to say

As a mom you have to say some pretty fun and interesting things. I wanted to compile a list of a few things I have had to say over the last few weeks. (I am sure I am missing a ton of good ones)

    • “Maxx, you can not pee at the park.” I say in a park full of people who can see my child urinating just outside the play area
    • “Maxx, STOP peeing in the flower garden!” a quick little lesson about why we can’t pee in public followed.

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        • “Stop trying to hit your brother with the Orr!” As Maxx is ducking to miss the inevitable beating.
        • “Mommy can burp on command too” I announced in the middle of a burping contest.
        • “Stop putting erasers in my hair?” This was a weird game, I still don’t understand.
        • “Is that chocolate or poop” Mom classic for sure.
        • “If I have to tell you one more time.” ………….continue to repeat myself 17 more times.

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    • “Where are your shoes? Seriously where are your shoes?” I ask 8 times a day.
    • “You don’t want to go to the cold store? Ok, I am not sure what you mean but we won’t go to the cold store” Pull into Aldi’s parking lot and instant tears for arriving at the cold store.

{my explanation and reasoning of why this is not the “cold store” was clearly not getting through to him”

    • “Stop eating paper. Seriously stop” Pretty sure he ate an entire piece.
    • “Whyyyyyyy did you do that?” Looking at 10000 tiny pieces of smashed crackers

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    • “Get your toe out of your mouth” I have to say this one more than I should.
    • “Who ate this entire stick of chapstick?” I ask knowing it was the same one who ate the paper.
    • “Why would you take a bite of my deodorant?” Betchya can’t guess which kid did this!
    • “I love you so much! Do you know how much Mommy loves you?” I say more times a day than I can count. I am forever loving my set of crazies.

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It is fun, I love looking back after the fact and laughing at the things we say. My kids sure keep me on my toes. What are some funny things you have had to say lately?

It’s ok to be annoyed with motherhood

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It’s ok to be annoyed with motherhood

While I know I am blessed, I also know that I am annoyed. In the pure chaos of my day, it is easy to go from Awe-Struck to Awe ____, and that’s ok. No matter what you hear, it isn’t always rainbows and sunshine when you are nurturing and caring for a small human.

Yes, I know this time is fleeting. I know they won’t be little forever. I know I am going to miss their sweet little voices and tiny hands but I guarantee I will not miss the game of “Chase me around the van” I absolutely will miss that laugh but nope, not the game.

Trust me I blinked and my tiny bundle of pink turned 7. It flew by and I know when I blink again she will be 14. I get that time passes quickly and I can not get these moments back. Do you want me to be honest? I don’t want all of them back. I won’t miss going to the grocery store and my child missing his brother’s head with a bag of bread and smacking the lady stocking shelves in the shoulder.  No, that is a time of embarrassment I don’t care to relive.

It doesn’t matter how many times you tell me I will miss those middle of the night cuddles I will always respond with “but not the kicks in the face”. Right now little to no cuddling is happening and a lot of asking for ice cream at 3 am is going on. Will I miss them when they no longer want to crawl in bed with me? Absolutely but I am not going to miss that swift kick in the ribs waking me up from my peaceful slumber.

Now that your children are grown and you are all rested, it sure is easy to tell me what I will miss. I hate to break it to you, I am not going to miss being beaten by a tiny child until half of my body is hanging off the bed. So stop trying to make me feel bad about it. Yes, I know you have “been there, done that” but I am “In here, doing it right now”. It is amazing and exhausting at the same time.

Do you get into your clean car and think “Oh I miss the smell of spoiled milk sippy cups, forgotten diapers, and stale fries?”  My guess is probably no. My reaction getting into my minivan “What crawled up and died in here?” Will I miss my kids being small enough for a sippy cup, absolutely but let’s not pretend any of us miss that awful smell.

It is completely ok to absolutely love and cherish your children but still want to stop cleaning poop off the walls. Will I miss them being too old to smear poop on the wall? HAHA no, I am ready for that whole chapter to be closed and over.

Just because I am willing to talk about the hard things doesn’t mean I don’t soak in the sweet moments. I am storing them all away. Soaking in every single moment that my child holds my hand, tells me I am the best mommy, reaches a goal, and never forgetting the feeling where they just flat out knock me over with love. I also don’t want to forget the times where I thought I couldn’t do it anymore when my stress got to be too much when I honestly couldn’t figure out how I could go another night without sleep. These times are what makes all those precious moments even more special.

When I look back I want to know exactly what we went through, how hard we had to work on some days and how easy others were. No sugar coating any of it. Real life moments are what make real life.

Motherhood is hard, it’s ok to be annoyed when you are at your peak stress and you step on soaking wet carpet. But don’t worry, take a deep breath and remember they are only little once so enjoy that big puddle of milk you just stepped in. Haha just kidding, you don’t have to enjoy that.  These are important parts motherhood but not the ones you have to cherish, and that’s ok!

 

 

Why can’t a mother just be a mother

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Why can’t a mother just be a mother

I love doing “nothing” with my life. Stay at home mom’s can you relate? I know you don’t do anything either.

I love my carefree days at home, the ones where we lay in bed, watch TV eating snacks and fall asleep before 10am for our first of four naps for the day. I can’t think of a time where I am more relaxed and less stressed than when I am trying to work on various projects for the household, blog or nonprofit and my children are fighting over who is the real Superman or whose shoes stink the worse. It is pure happiness when my children play quietly in their room while I have my home manicurist come and touch up my nails. Oh, don’t forget the joy I feel when they clean up their mess without even being asked. Absolute bliss.

Somehow this is how some people view my life as a stay at home mom. In all reality it looks nothing like this. If I wanted a manicure I would be toting 3 children along. If the kids were in their room quietly playing, I would soon have  a huge mess of toys, and poop smeared walls to clean up. If I want them to clean their room I have to stand over them and yell repeatedly.

I am not sure where the fantasy of these relaxing, stress free days came from but it is not realistic in the slightest.

I am no less of a woman because I choose to chase children instead of a career. Why do people assume I gave up on a career? Do you think they know that being a wife and mother is what I have always wanted? Is my contribution to this society not great enough by raising my children to be decent human beings? Because I think it is.

I don’t have less value in myself because I choose to serve my husband and family. I make dinner, put it on a plate and bring it to him, not because I have to but because I want to. It is not expected or required, I just do it. When my husband cooks he does the same for me, in our home it is a gesture of love and respect vs. a sign of submission.

I love the work I do. I wouldn’t choose any other life, so why do people think I need to? The constant comparison between mothers is so insane. Why can’t a mother just be a mother without someone telling her she is doing it wrong or she needs to do more?

Stay at home moms do a hard, stressful, exhausting, physically demanding job.

Ahh, wait. I can just hear all the “but working moms” and the “you have no ideas” coming at me. The comparisons are almost jumping through my screen right now and they can just stop right there. Just because I say that a mother who stays home has a hard job doesn’t mean I think those who work have it any easier. It doesn’t have to be one or the other.

Let me get something straight, this post, or life for that matter is not about who does it better.

If you are a stay at home mom, you rock!

If you are a working mother, you rock!

I am in no competition with any of you. This is about me, and MY CHOICE for my family. I don’t understand the need for those to constantly try to prove that one is a better choice than the other. Neither is better, neither is worse, we all just do what fits our family best. That is what being a mother is about putting your family first with every choice you make. So whether you choose to work outside the home or choose to stay home, you are doing the right thing for your family.

Why don’t we all just try to focus on the amazing job we are doing as mothers instead of using someone else and their life as a yardstick for ours. Don’t put someone down because their life looks different than yours. Lift each other up ,we all need a little boost every once in a while.

When You Are Tired of Being Tired

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When You Are Tired of Being Tired

I am exhausted. Down right worn out and I am tired of being tired.

Tired of Being TIred

Do you remember my word for this year, Balance? I am having a hard time finding the balance. Every day something or someone gets the most of my attention, I’ll be honest there isn’t a lot of balance going on. I find myself lacking in some area, not doing something on my huge to do list and this is leaving me feeling like I am not doing enough. When in all reality it’s because I am doing so much for the ones I love and forgetting I have needs. I am always doing for others, putting myself last and forgetting MY needs. Draining myself to the point I am so tired I can not see past my list of to-dos.

 

I know the saying “Put your own oxygen mask on before helping others” but I don’t even know where my oxygen mask is. I am not complaining, each thing on my to-do list brings me great joy. I do not want to remove anything. I do want to lesson my stress and this overwhelming feeling of exhaustion.

This right here is me.

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As hard as it is to admit I am not always pleasant to be around. I can yell, be short-tempered  and extremely low on patience with everyone around me. I always wait until I get to this point to do something about it. I know it can not be healthy for me or my family. My mood sets the tone for my household and this is not the mood I want filling myself and those I love.

So now what? What do I do to prevent myself from turning into a red eyed, head spinning monster? I am not Daniel Tiger so counting to four isn’t going to work for me. I need to practice selfcare to be able to care for those I love. Self care doesn’t have to mean a long spa day or a night away. You can take care of yourself by doing little things each day. If you are like me this is hard to do but it is a must.

Self Care

  1. Stop feeling guilty. You need to care for yourself. I know as mother’s we feel like we have to put everyone’s needs in front of our own but by doing this you are still putting your family first. Taking the time to renew yourself you are able to give them the best you.
  2. Wake up before the kids. I actually already do this one. I am not a morning person but I set my alarm for 5:45am every morning so I can wake, get a shower, drink my coffee and catch up on some things before the kids wake up and start demanding my attention. I can tell a difference in my mood when I hit the snooze and miss this special quiet time in the morning. I need it.
  3. Don’t compare yourself to others. This one gets me, I look at others and wish I could be do half as much as them. I have to remind myself it is not all it appears to be. People like to present their best self, rarely do they let you see the messy side.

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  4. If you can’t get an entire afternoon away, carve out time in your daily schedule that is just yours. Read a book, drink your coffee alone, workout, do whatever it is to help you get 15 minutes to yourself. Take advantage of nap time or let them have some screen time.
  5. Take a long relaxing bath or shower. I feel so rejuvenated after a good hot shower or bath. I do my best thinking in the shower and I love this time to myself to just relax and think.
  6. Get together with other moms. Sometimes I just don’t feel like playing another game of dinosaurs or shopkins. I just want to relax and have some adult conversation while the kids enjoy some fun playtime with their friends.
  7. Make lists. Make a top 3, put things that HAVE to be done at the top. What doesn’t get done moves to tomorrow, if it doesn’t get done there is always tomorrow. We absolutely can not plan out every detail in our life.
  8. If you possibly can, get away for a quiet afternoon. Do this alone or meet up with a friend. Unwind and just do you for an afternoon. You deserve it.
  9. Remember you can not do it all. Delegate and show your self some grace. You are doing a fabulous job juggling everything you have on your plateI am done with being tired of being tired. I am going to work on being the best me I can be, not just for me but for my entire family. What are you doing that helps you unwind, relax, and focus on yourself?
10 Ways I am Rocking Motherhood

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10 Ways I am Rocking Motherhood

I am #RockingMotherhood. Although if you asked the lady in Aldi’s parking lot who witnessed me slap a half eaten pastry out of one child’s hand while the other bent down to pick up smashed already chewed gum, I believe she would disagree.

I was nominated for the #RockingMotherhood challenge by Jessica at Body After Baby.  I just love the idea of highlighting the positive in motherhood. Let me be the first to tell you, this was a hard one for me. I had to sit down and stare at a blinking cursor for far more than I would like to admit. If this was a list about my failures I could knock that out in no time but this, no not this. It is incredibly hard for me to think of what I do well when it comes to being a mother. But I did it and it felt good, kinda.

Reasons I am Rocking Motherhood

  1.  I am not perfect. I make mistakes and with those mistakes I allow my children to watch me grow from them. I face challenges, both big and small each day and as I choose how to handle them I always remember who is watching me.
  2.  I love their Daddy. I show my children the meaning of truly loving and respecting someone. I want to show them the value of family. I want them to know the importance of loving, respecting and caring for those around you.
  3. I put my children before myself in all things. Every decision I make I consider how it will impact their lives. It isn’t about making their lives easier or even mine. Sometimes these decisions make both our lives harder but I make the best decisions I can for my family. I hold the responsibility I have to be their mother to the highest.
  4. We allow mistakes. Knowing that children are not perfect, I try my best to remember that mistakes happen. This isn’t always easy when I just want to scream at the top of my lungs because of spilt milk, I still do the screaming sometimes but I try my hardest to show them grace. To let them know mistakes are allowed and we can learn from them.
  5. I recognize that all of our children are different. They are their own individual person with their own unique personalities. I want them to thrive in this world on who they are not who I think they should be and definitely not who others think they should be. Who they are is absolutely perfect. Who they are will set this world on fire.
  6. I do things I may not always want to do. I play the stinky feet game, I laugh at fart jokes, I make up the craziest bedtime stories. Stories that include super heroes, the big bad wolf and cow poop all wrapped into one off the wall story. Talking about poop isn’t my thing but it sure is my families so hey, I will proudly own the Poop Mom title.
  7. I am grateful. I am thankful for every moment shared with my children, I know they are not to be taken for granted. I may joke a lot about counting down the minutes until bed time but I do know these moments are fleeting. I may be down right exhausted but I stand in awe each day of my privilege to be their mother and for that I am grateful.
  8. I am their teacher. We homeschool so I not only teach them the basics but I help them learn so much more. Reading, writing and so so much math. I also guide them in being their best self while letting them experience what this world has to offer, the exciting parts and the grocery shopping parts. Every day we are learning.
  9. We make memories. I try my best to show them fun and excitement, letting them experience new things. Also allowing them to get bored and make memories with each other by letting their imaginations take them to new, exciting places.
  10. Most importantly, I am doing the absolute best I can. I show my children daily I love them and will always be there for them. I want them to know we will face any challenges together. I will be by their side to help them overcome and to celebrate.

This was definitely not as easy as you would think. Have you sat down and thought about what you are rocking at lately? I challenge you to write down 10 ways you are #RockingMotherhood.

Here are some awesome mommas who are #RockingMotherhood. Take a minute and check them out.

Cheri at Absolutely Cheri

Kristin at Our Common Chaos

Stephanie at You are my SON Shine

Liz at The Loud Introvert

Lee at LoveLee Day Planners, LLC

 

Rules

1.Thank the blogger that tagged you and link to their blog. 
2.List 10 things you believe make you a good mother (this is just a guideline. It can be more or less than 10. 
3.Tag some bloggers to join in the #RockingMotherhood Tag. 
4.Grab the #RockingMotherhood badge and add it to your post or sidebar.
 
Child-like Forgiveness

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Child-like Forgiveness

I want to be more child-like. Isn’t it amazing how a child sees you? How they view you through those innocent eyes. Their ability to show you unfailing love. The unparalleled forgiveness they give.   Do you ever think you should be more like a child?

a child’s heart is inspiring.

A child allows so much grace when you fall a little short. While you are being hard on yourself, they are extending grace. They speak forgiveness when you react with a harsh tone. They somehow always see the best of you, even when you can’t even begin to believe it yourself.

Just this week my kids said some things that really stuck with me. Mav broke one of M’s toys and she was upset. Maxx comforting her tells her “Don’t worry sissy, daddy will fix it. Daddy can fix anything.” I thought wow, he really believes in his daddy. My husband is a very talented and handy man, I rely on him to fix most things but everything? I can only wish to show as much faith as Maxx.

The things they observe is absolutely amazing. A few nights ago while reading a story we started talking about how much we love daddy. M jumps in and says “Nobody loves daddy more than mommy” This made me think about all the things they take away from my relationship with Keith, while it made me beam with joy knowing my love for him shows it also made me think of the things they over look.

Wouldn’t it be nice to see the good in everything? To always see the best in others rather than focusing on their flaws. I know my relationship with Keith isn’t perfect but my kids only file away the good while overruling any of the negative. Keith isn’t able to fix everything but Maxx sure believes in his ability, so why don’t we do these things? Why can’t we be more child-like?

They are not always happy with us as parents. I will be the first to tell you I am not perfect, I raise my voice entirely too much but they don’t doubt us, never question our love for them. Holding a grudge is not something they do. Do I hold too many grudges?

I know my children can get really upset when something of theirs gets broken or lost. You don’t hear them bringing up the toy you broke and throwing it in your face three weeks later. They extend forgiveness. Do I extend enough forgiveness?

I know I do not show the grace and forgiveness as I should. I know my voice can be too harsh and my anger last too long. I am striving to follow the example set by my children. Although they are not slow to anger, they are most certainly quick to forgive.

All of these traits are what we as adults seek. I know for myself this to be true. I am making it a priority to be more like a child so I can lead my family by example. I want them to not only see the love I have for them and their daddy but also the forgiveness, grace and faith.

You are not always the teacher in the household. Your children have many valuable lessons to share, just take notice.

Your children have many valuable lessons to share, just take notice.

 

Parenting Meme RoundUp

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Parenting Meme RoundUp

I love memes, some of them are so laugh out loud funny. Especially the ones about parenting. I am always sending them to friends and family. So I am going to share a few of my recent favorites with you. I hope you find some humor in these so my daughter won’t feel bad for me. She recently told me it makes her feel bad when I tell a joke and I am the only one who laughs……seriously, I do not know what my family’s problem is. Someone tell them I am funny.

Listening Habits

Patience

 

 

Cleaning

 

 

 

Just a mom

 

 

 

 

Hope you enjoyed this round up!  Send me your favorite meme to kayla@simplyburch.com and see if it will be featured on the next round up. Hit me with your best shot!